Losing a loved one can be a difficult and emotional process and choosing the right memorial to honour their memory can be just as challenging.
At C.J. Ball & Son, we understand the importance of finding the right way to commemorate the life of someone you loved dearly.
That’s why we offer meaningful memorials at affordable prices along with valuable advice to guide you through the process.
Do Not Rush Your Decision
The first and most important advice we give is to take your time.
The loss of a loved one can be overwhelming, and it’s natural to feel pressured to choose a memorial quickly – unless your loved one already had plans in place with regards to their memorial as some people do opt to choose their own memorial before their passing.
However, if it’s left for you to choose, there should be no time scale placed on the selection of a memorial.
You need to allow yourself the time to grieve and reflect on the life of your loved one before making any important decisions.
While many cemeteries allow chosen cremation memorials to typically be installed fairly quickly, for traditional burial plot memorials without cremation, the cemetery or churchyard are likely to request that you wait at least 6 – 12 months before installing a headstone so that the grave is given time to settle.
This provides an opportunity for you to spend several months gathering your thoughts and considering what sort of memorial may be most suitable to commemorate your loved one’s life – the same should apply for cremation memorials – take your time to make the perfect choice.
Communicate with Your Family and Friends
It’s not uncommon for funeral directors or family and friends to ask about a memorial soon after a loved one’s passing.
However, it’s essential to communicate your need for time to grieve and reflect on the life of your loved one before making any decisions – and your family and friends may have some worthwhile suggestions and input of their own that could prove beneficial to you, so letting them know you’ll discuss your loved one’s memorial with them in the future when you feel ready could be a helpful idea.
Waiting to choose a memorial can make a big difference, as you’ll be able to look back on your memories and choose a tribute that truly represents your loved one’s legacy.
Selecting the Right Memorial
It’s important to choose a memorial that reflects your loved one’s personality, beliefs, and interests.
You can choose from a variety of materials, including granite, marble, and limestone.
We can also help you with personalised inscriptions or a fine craft etching that can reflect your loved one’s life and legacy in the most fitting way.
Consider the Cemetery or Churchyard Regulations
If you’re installing a memorial on a grave, the cemetery or churchyard will likely have specific regulations.
You’ll need to ensure that your chosen memorial meets the requirements and guidelines set out by the cemetery or churchyard.
This includes the size, material, and design of the memorial.
If you have any concerns or questions, don’t hesitate to get in touch with your chosen cemetery for clarification on their regulations.
Await the Right Time
It’s important to wait for the right time before installing a memorial.
As mentioned, most cemeteries or churchyards will ask you to wait several months or more before the headstone can be erected, so that the grave can settle.
During this time, you’ll have the opportunity to reflect on your memories and decide on the perfect way to honour your loved one – attending consultations with local memorial masons in the meantime is the perfect way to explore the memorial possibilities that are availabile to you.
Write Several Versions of the Inscription
Writing the inscription for a memorial can be a difficult task, but it’s an essential part of the process.
It’s a lasting tribute to your loved one, so it’s important to take the time to get it right.
You can write several versions of the inscription and revisit them periodically to see if they still resonate with your loved one’s legacy.
It’s also okay to change the inscription at a later date if it doesn’t truly reflect your loved one’s life.
Popular Memorial FAQs
Q: What types of memorials are available for my loved one in a cemetery?
A: There are various types of memorials available to use in a cemetery, including headstones, plaques, vases, cremation memorials, and more. It’s important to check with the cemetery to understand their guidelines and regulations for the type of memorial you choose.
Q: How long does it take to install a memorial in a cemetery?
A: The length of time it takes to install a memorial can vary depending on the type of memorial and the cemetery’s guidelines. Generally, the process can take anywhere from a few weeks to several months.
Q: Can I personalise a memorial for my loved one?
A: Yes, you can personalise a memorial for your loved one in many different way. From the inscription to the design, there are various ways to make the memorial unique and meaningful.
Q: What if I want to change the inscription on the memorial at a later date?
A: It’s common for families to want to change the inscription on a memorial at a later date. Most memorial masons will offer services to amend or add to an existing inscription, but it’s important to check with the cemetery to ensure that any changes meet their guidelines.
Q: How much does a memorial in a cemetery cost?
A: The cost of a memorial in a cemetery can vary depending on the type of memorial and the materials used. It’s important to shop around and compare prices to find a memorial that fits your budget. Some memorial masons, like us at C.J. Ball & Son, offer affordable yet high quality memorial options for families.
Q: Can I install a memorial myself?
A: In most cases, it’s strongly recommended that you hire professionals to install a memorial in a cemetery. This ensures that the memorial is installed safely and meets the cemetery’s guidelines.